Define Love

Defining Love; Love is a universally understood concept, yet one that has no true definition. Love is a feeling that can be felt by all human beings, yet not a single one can come up with a solid definition. How then can we define love?

c For some it’s showering their partners with gifts and material possessions. For others, its’ as simple as making their partners’ favorite meal, or helping out where they can. Others choose to use their creative sides, and come up with songs and poems to express what they feel inside. By all these examples, it is true to say that love exists in many forms, and as such can be explained in very many human aspects.

Every language and culture speaks of love as a basic human emotion; one that we can’t live without. We feel a different love for our spouses and partners, another for our friends and family, and yet another for our children. It is truly that something so universal can be expressed in so many manifestations; ones that cannot be logically explained.
The love felt between a man and a woman is something different from that a mother feels for her child. The latter case needs less explanation, it just is. It is the former that we as human beings have for years endlessly tried to accurately describe, to no avail. The process of choosing a partner is so natural that both parties instinctively know that they are feeling love for each other. We often try to come up with “logical explanations” (think scientists and their chemical pheromones theories), that often seem to take the mystique of love away.

As I stated before, love manifests differently for different people. That said there are those who seem to think that it should be shown through material possessions. This is not bad, only that it comes off as trying to buy love. And that is not the way to properly show love.
Love is a deep feeling that requires one to open themselves up to their partners. This involves the risk of not getting the love reciprocated and in some cases, even getting rejected. This is not to say that we shouldn’t try. In fact, it is this “wildcard” nature of love that makes it so interesting for mankind. Many of us don’t take the risk, and thus end up never experiencing true love. If you want to testify to true love feelings, then you have to let your fears go.

Love at first has been perpetuated by some as true love. This is misleading, as the only feelings that give rise to such fast relationships are lust and infatuation. These come in the form of crushes; a common occurrence among teenagers and young adults. Real love relationships take time to build and foster, and as such you can say that love cannot be rushed.
All the above has been leading to my perception of what love is. Rather than give a straight-forward definition of love, I will give what I believe to be the cornerstones of sharing and fostering love in a relationship; trust, honesty, patience, kindness, humility, enduring and hopeful. These are the virtues we should all strive to show our love by.
It is not easy to wake up one morning and attest to having all these virtues. Love takes time to grow, and with these virtues as your foundation, your love will surely stand the test of time. Strive not to accurately define love, but rather let it reflect in your actions.

Can we overcome memories of our first love?

First Love an ever lasting memory?

W.H. Auden mentioned, A false enchantment can all too easily last a lifetime. First love could happen at any age. Rosemary Rogers said, First romance, first love, is something so special to all of us, both emotionally and physically, that it touches our lives and enriches them forever. On the other hand, George Bernard Shaw held that first love is a little foolish and a lot of curiosity. Memories of first love are always delicious. Very few experiences in our lives are as intense and overwhelming as our first love.

First love in teenage is much more fierce than the first love in adulthood. However, the teenage love usually evaporates very fast. A survey result reveals that first love relationships last only for 3 or 4 months for persons at the age of 15. Psychologists identify the 3 phases of first love as lust, attraction, and attachment. The close intimacy developed during the period of first love must necessarily involve openness, trust and a sharing attitude. This would lead to maturity and help the relationship last longer.

Normally first love is not the childhood infatuation on a teacher or a movie star. It is the first relationship or attraction of a romantic nature experienced in adolescence. Memories of first love are mostly fond ones but in certain cases, the memories could be highly painful also. Those who had experienced feelings of happiness, enthusiasm, excitement, and pride in their first love are much more likely to have stable, enduring relationships in their later lives. On the other hand, those who went through feelings of shame, guilt, hostility or fright during their first love tend to have weak relationships with others.

Even though it is true that we could fall in love any number of times in our life, the memories of first love would always remain fresh and occupy a special place in our hearts. A Turkish proverb says that young love is from the earth, and late love is from heaven. When we are young, we have high energy levels and our hormones are on overdrive. This could lead to an exhilarating feeling but there are dangers if emotions are not properly controlled at this stage. The obvious dangers are premature pregnancy, HIV, drug addiction, etc. Still, one danger that most people never consider is a wrong relationship. Unless you are clear as to what you expect from your first love, you might end up only with a sad experience.

In the initial stages of first love, we tend to ignore our own needs and desires and give priority to the wants of the other person. However, as time passes by, this becomes more and more difficult to practice and resentment or anger sets in. This leads invariably to parting of ways. Hence, it is important to analyze all the positive and negative aspects of the other person and evaluate them deeply before deciding whether you are really in love with that person.

Psychologists hold that love at first sight is quite possible. However, first sight love purely depends on our mental status at that particular moment. It might take only 30 seconds to decide whether the other person is really worth falling in love with. Psychologists say that men fall in love first more than women do. When we fall in love, we unconsciously wish to complete our personality and therefore, we look for qualities in the other person that we feel we lack. To a certain extent, men look for the qualities of their mothers in women they like to fall in love with. Same way, women also seek qualities of their fathers in men they wish to love.

We have to remember that we are emotionally virgins until we fall for the first time in love. Hence, the first love tends to have a much greater effect on our lives, whether we admit it or not. It is very difficult to be prepared for first love because it is a sudden experience. The emotional experiences that go with first love are very strong. We have to learn to understand them, sort them out and control them. Feelings of passion, elation, sincerity, anxiety, fear all come in a mixed fashion. If the first love ends on a happy note, then it poses no further problems. On the other hand, if the first love fails for any reason, the legacy that it leaves behind could be painful. We have to learn our lessons from that to have much healthier relationships in our later part of life.

For many people, first love is their work. For such persons, the emotional attachment to their profession is very strong. They usually tend to ignore other human relationships or take them in a lighter vein. Most of them remain single in their life, devoting themselves totally to their work, which is their passion.

I Love You

I Love You, in 50 different languages - The ways to say, “I love you” are so many as there are languages. Here you can find "I Love You" in 50 different languages. In every language this sounds different and also that depends on languages intonation, for that reason “I love you” can sound tenderly, a little hard or even rudely. The phrase “I love you” has different length in the other languages. It can be only one word or more than four or five words. Every one will be happy to hear the words “I love you” from someone, who is close to him. It’s very nice and one big surprise for your girlfriend/boyfriend to say her/him “I love you” in 50 different language

I love you ... There are many things that you can use to make sure that you will make the person near you feel loved, but the best among all of them is to simply tell him or her, 3 simple words – “ I love you”. Furthermore, if you manage to learn the 50 different ways to say I love you, you will be able to make really pleasant surprise for your partner. If you do not know how to do that, here I will help you in order to find some of the most common translations of the phrase “I love you” in 50 different languages. “I love you” can sound like this:

1. I love you in Bulgarian – Obicham te ;

2. in Belarusian – Ya tabe kahayu ;

3. in Bangla – Aamee tuma ke bhalo aashi ;

4. in Cantonese Chinese – Ngo oiy ney a ;

5. I love you in Catalan – T`estimo ;

6. in Cheyenne – Ne mohotatse ;

7. in Chichewa – Ndimakukonda ;

8. in Creole – Mi aime jou ;

9. in Croatian – Volim te ;

10. I love you in Czech – Miluji te ;

11. in Danish – Jeg elsker dig ;

12. in Dutch - Ik hou van jou ;

13. in Esperanto – Mi amas vin ;

14. in Estonian – Ma armastan sind ;

15. I love you in Ethiopian – Afgreki` ;

16. in Farsi – Doset daram ;

17. in Filipino – Mahal kita ;

18. in Finnish –Mina rakastan sinua ;

19. in French – Je t`aime/ Je t`adore ;

20. I love you in German – Ich liebe dich ;

21. in Greek – S`agapau ;

22. in Gujarati – Hoo thunay prem karoo choo ;

23. in Hawaiian – Aloha wau ia oi ;

24. in Hebrew – Ani ohev otah (to female) and Ani ohev et otha (to male) ;

25. I love you in Hindi – Hum tumhe pyar karte hae ;

26. in Hmong – Kuv hlub koj ;

27. in Hopi – Nu` umi unangwa`ta ;

28. in Hungarn – Szeretlek ;

29. in Icelansic – Eg elska tig ;

30. in Indonesian – Saya cinta padamu ;

31. in Irish – Taim i`ngra leat ;

32. in Italian – Ti amo ;

33. I love you in Japanese – Aishiteru ;

34. in Kannada – Naanu ninna preetisuttene ;

35. in Korean – Sarang heyo ;

36. in Latin – Te amo ;

37. in Latvian – Es tevi miilu ;

38. in Malay – Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu ;

39. in Mandarin Chinese – Wo ai ni ;

40. in Navaho – Ayor anosh`ni ;

41. in Norwegian – Jeg elsker dek ;

42. in Persian – Doo-set daaram ;

43. in Pig Latin – Lay ovlay ouyay ;

44. in Polish – Kocham Ciebie ;

45. in Portuguese – Eu tea mo ;

46. in Romanian – Te ubesk ;

47. in Russian – Ya tebya liubliu ;

48. I love you in Serbian – Volim te ;

49. in Slovenian – Ljubim te ;

50. in Spanish – Te quiero / Te amo .

So, now you can make a surprise to your girlfriend/boyfriend, to your mother, father, to your best friend or to someone else, who you whish. That way you will make the person that you are in love with, feel a lot better. The reason for that is the fact that when you manage to tell someone, I love you, that you really love him or her in 50 different ways, he or she will see that you really love the person. Remember that to make sure that you will keep the love alive you will have to make everything possible to make some small surprises each day and there is no better present than to tell someone “I love you”.